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Watch Hill Harper Tackle ‘The Issues’ In New Web Series ‘Epiphany’ | Shadow and Act

Hill Harper

Watch Hill Harper Tackle ‘The Issues’ In New Web Series ‘Epiphany’ |

The author of “The Conversation” takes his conversation to the Web in “The Epiphany”

I know that there are a few people who like to give actor Hill Harper the “side eye” (as I believe it’s called), or think that he’s corny. But you definitely cannot deny that he’s a seriously committted guy who wants to affect positive change in society.Shadow and Act.

 

Pew study: Blacks may have voted at higher rate than whites for 1st time in history | theGrio

Pew study: Blacks may have voted at higher rate than whites for 1st time in history | theGrio.

Although blacks make up 12 percent of the so-called “eligible electorate”, 13 percent of the ballots cast for president were African-American voters.

 

Brooklyn Street Art 2012 Images by Jaime Rojo for BrooklynStreetArt.com

For those growing up in Brooklyn, NY, there is a flavor that can never be replicated anywhere else in the world. The old saying goes, “Brooklyn is not just a borough. It is a neighborhood.” The look and culture may have changed from its beginnings to the present but that neighborhood (not hood) feel has not changed for those who crosses its  bridges. Share your memories at Brooklyn Online.

Published on Dec 16, 2012

Images of the Year 2012: Of the 10,000 images he snapped of Street Art this year, photographer Jaime Rojo has compiled 110 that represent some of the most compelling, interesting, perplexing, thrilling. Together the collection gives an idea of the range of mediums, techniques, styles, and sentiments appearing on the street today as the scene continues to evolve worldwide. Every seven days on BrooklynStreetArt.com, we present “Images Of The Week”, our weekly interview with the street. We hope you enjoy this collection – some of the best from 2012.

Artists include 2501, 4Burners, 907, Above, Aiko, AM7, Anarkia, Anthony Lister, Anthony Sneed, Bare, Barry McGee, Bast, Billi Kid, Cake, Cash For Your Warhol, Con, Curtis, D*Face, Dabs & Myla, Daek One, DAL East, Dan Witz, Dark Clouds, Dasic, David Ellis, David Pappaceno, Dceve, Deth Kult, ECB, Eine, El Sol 25, Elle, Entes y Pesimo, Enzo & Nio, Esma, Ever, Faile, Faith47, Fila, FKDL, Gable, Gaia, Gilf!, Graffiti Iconz, Hef, HellbentHert, Hot Tea, How & Nosm, Icy & Sot, Interesni Kazki, Jason Woodside, Javs, Jaye Moon, Jaz, Jean Seestadt, Jetsonorama, Jim Avignon, Joe Iurato, JR, Judith Supine, Ka, Kem5, Know Hope, Kuma, Labrona, Liqen, LNY, Love Me, Lush, Matt Siren, Mike Giant, Miyok, MOMO, Mr. Sauce, Mr. Toll, ND’A, Nick Walker, Nosego, Nychos, Occupy Wall Street, Okuda, OLEK, OverUnder, Phlegm, Pixel Pancho, Rambo, Read Books!, Reka, Retna, Reyes, Rime, Risk, ROA, Robots Will Kill, Rone, Sacer, Saner, See One, Sego, sevens errline, Sheyro, Skewville, Sonni, Stick, Stikman, Stormie Mills, Square, Swoon, Tati, The Yok, Toper, TVEE, UFO, VHILS, Willow, Wing, XAM, Yes One, and Zed1 .

Images © Jaime Rojo and Brooklyn Street Art 2012

Cougars: Another Woman’s Journey

In an age of enlightenment, “again,” we are now ruminating over old modes of thinking and finding most of the time that old taboos are back in style. So it seems with the term, Cougar. The TV show “Cougars” revamped something that folks had the sense to only whisper about. Then again, they only whispered it if someone spied one of the neighborhood boys creeping out of a woman’s back door. I read a blog recently that questioned the impact of the word Cougar in 2010. Here was my response:

If you really want to understand why educated women become insulted being called a “Cougar,” read the Audre Lorde essay, “The Erotic as Power.” Your argument is outside of the context of womanhood (although well meant). As a man in a society defined by men, relating to a woman’s perspective beyond the sexual is non-existent. Regardless of how intelligent men proclaim a woman to be, her scale of intelligence is always based on his (as any human), and subconsciously, exceptional in-spite of her sex appeal. Speaking from a divorced 52-year-old African American woman’s perspective, the majority of younger men who are doing well are attracted to older women for their mature out look and economic prowess. The younger men who are not doing well, need some place to live. This is a personal experience and is not a blanket statement of younger men. They always need or want something, not necessarily monetary. Older single women have usually been through experiences that have left them drained and really do not want to mother or be fathered. They are usually self-maintained or it would benefit them more to seek out older well-established men. So leaving the sexuality at the door, educated Africans are realizing that older women are an asset that the African community can’t live without. We are the griots of culture,  the power of nature, the harbingers of secrets, and the wives of a tired culture that still has not learned to respect itself first; therefore call their motherheads Cougars.

Not a single word in the entire collection of world dictionaries has raised the hair on the back of my neck as the word Cougar. No disrespect to the fine actors on the show,  Cougars, but women of substance have an obligation to boycott and protest against anything that teaches our young women that sexual power is not worth preserving.

Nappy Feet: Million Dollar Pedicure for less

Pampering yourself can get expensive but it doesn’t have to be. Most products can be found at your corner Dollar Tree or around the house. Your preference of product quality or brand name may add to the expense involved. But nothing beats the completeness your body enjoys when it is the sole focus of the pamperer’s attention.  So before you dart over to your favorite body salon, take a few minutes. Engage the pleasures of ‘me time.’

Lets make a list of the essentials.

Tools:

Nail polish remover

Nail polish

Toe clippers

Cuticle remover

Nail Buffer

Foot sander

Skin blade (used to remove dead skin from heels, rims and ball of foot)

Foot sander

Horse-hair brush

Toe-separator (sponge)

Epson salts and/or Dawn Antibacterial dishwashing liquid

Foot scrub

Cotton balls or clean cloth (whatever is available)

Clean Towels (2)

Wash cloth or sponge

Skin moisturizer

12 X 18 Basin (long and wide enough to accommodate both feet at once)

Now that we have our tools assembled, playtime can begin.

  1. Remove old polish with cotton balls or other material available in your household. Make sure to use cotton swabs to clear areas the nail bed and nail corners.
  2. Fill a basin with hot water. Check temperature with elbow for comfort-level.
  3.  Add one teaspoon per gallon of Epson salts or one teaspoon of Dawn Antibacterial dishwashing liquid per two-three gallons of water.
  4. Find a comfortable seat and place the towel across your lap
  5. Place both feet in basin and soak for 5 minutes.
  6. Remove ‘foot A’ and place on towel
  7. Gently use toe-clipper to trim toe nails down to desired length.
  8. Use cuticle remover to trim away over grown skin on at perimeter of nail.
  9. Buff the nail surface until even and replace foot in the basin.
  10. Remove ‘foot B’ and follow steps 7-9.
  11. Remove ‘foot A’  and place on towel.
  12. Gently scrape thick dead skin away from heel, rim, and ball of foot.
  13. Buff the sole of the foot, with a foot sander, to remove thin dead skin and even out areas where thick dead skin was removed.
  14. Place ‘foot A’ back in basin and remove ‘foot B’
  15. Follow steps 12-13
  16. Dampen legs to just above the knee with a wash cloth or sponge
  17.  Apply an ample amount of foot scrub to damp leg surface
  18. Scrub away dead skin from legs in a circular motion and work towards each foot. Make sure to work between toes and soles of feet.
  19. Rinse away residue with wash-cloth or sponge.
  20. Pat dry feet and legs  and place feet on a dry towel.
  21. Massage skin moisturizer over work surfaces.
  22. Insert toe separator and apply nail polish.

Now take a deep breath…

Afterdeath: The First Bell

Leaving the focus off of self-inflicted catastrophes, such as drug and alcohol abuse, leaves a still wider array of situations open to us as humans. The climate of drug and alcohol rehabilitation has created a community of parasites, both apart and inclusive in the human rehabilitation or recovery systems. Due to the complexity and delicacy of the situation, we will leave that community for a more extensive conversation as it deserves a volume of chapters all its own. Accidents, layoffs, physical and mental, illness, mostly psychological trauma, constitute the worst forms of human pollution since they damage with no category of victims or prohibitions.  Everyone is open to each of these situations regardless of race, class, gender, or occupation. We may say, “What about a doctor?” Surprisingly, the more education or prestige a person acquires, the more destructive forces available to them. For instance, a dentist’s wife dies in a plane crash. While suing the airline for millions, he begins to drink heavily. He is not only a dentist, but a white male with a luxurious office in a prominent part of town.  In America, he is king.  

Each working day, he eats breakfast, lunch, and sometimes dinner at a more bar than restaurant near his office. The owner of the bar-restaurant is honored to have a dentist among the truck drivers and office workers frequenting his place. They form a firm friendship. Meals are half-priced or free. Drinks are always full-price, plentiful, and include a tip. The dentist meets a young administrative assistant during lunch. He tells her his story. They begin to meet every day and form a solid friendship. He loves her, she loves him. He’s counting on the $4,000,000 suit with the airline to cover his faltering work ethic.  They fly away for a two month vacation tour of Europe. She is only a temp at the office. He returns to his stool broke and alone. She finds another bar.

The dentist’s partner forces him out of the LLP. His clients have dwindled. One woman slaps the drill from his wobbling fingers after smelling the alcohol on his breath. Now, the dentist is at the bar morning until evening. The owner becomes less friendly as the dentist’s running tab is not paid at the end of the week. The owner must demand his money but is conflicted.   The owner has just learned he has prostate cancer. Turns out, the building housing the bar-restaurant, he leased for 25 years, is being sold. The lease will not be renewed. Therefore, his home, which he also leases, he can no longer afford. An IRS audit shows him owing in excess of $200,000 and his car, also leased, must be returned. Oh! His wife is leaving him. She is not going to move into an apartment with an ailing husband who has treated her badly for the past 10 years of their 32 year marriage. The dentist and the bar-restaurant owner are more in love than ever.  

  Accidents could be due to carelessness. There are varying degrees of carelessness in the human condition. Individuals and worldviews dictate the concept of responsibility. Yet, there is always a point at where we have a conscious or unconscious choice — to the left or to the right. Then sometimes, the choice is made for us.

Mommafucious

Words for the wanna-bee wise.

Mommafucious says …

August 20, 2009

Darkness and light cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

August 21, 2009

If it looks too good for you, smells too good for you, sounds too good for you, don’t hate. Move out of the way and let it move up.

August 22, 2009

If you are not in the healing business, comforting  business, finance business, stay out of other people’s business

August 24, 2009

A MAN abhors a gossiping shrew, especially in a wife.  If he is too quick to join in, take a hard look under the covers.

August 25, 2009

If your mound of gold looks smaller than someone else’s, yours is just farther away. Run faster. Work harder. Stay in Your lane.

August 26, 2009

Pity is no good to anyone. Save it for yourself. Give a helping hand instead.

August 27, 2009

A wise man once said, “I don’t know. Ask Mommafucious!”

August 28, 2009

If someone tells you something to keep between you and them, it is not between you and them.

August 29, 2009

Seeking midnight danger brings morning complaints.

August 31, 2009

When I was a child, I thought like a child. Then I realized I am not as smart as I pretended to be.

September 1, 2009

Always wait for the things you want most instead of taking what you need the least.

September 2, 2009

Respect is a shared experience. If you do not care to share, you might receive less than you expect.

September 3, 2009

If it is not written on your heart, writing it on your tongue will only help or harm someone else.

September 4, 2009

Casting pearls before swine only gets them dirty.

September 5, 2009

Pretense is fragile and easily threatened. It demands respect constantly. Authenticity is solid as a rock and can afford to be kind. It is never shamed.

September 8, 2009

Grow up and strong, not old. Age has its own batteries.

September 13, 2009

Humbling others shows our own inhumility, jealousy, and fear.

September 15, 2009

Anger brings wisdom. Share the wisdom, not the anger.

September 21, 2009

It is not what anyone says that makes you. It is what you do.

September 22, 2009

Life is like poker. You can only bluff so many times before you meet a real winner.

September 23, 2009

Calm in the face of danger is victory.

September 24, 2009

An incident, no matter how perverse, is only a moment in time. Don’t let it determine the rest of your life.

September 25, 2009

One person’s burden is another’s load. Don’t expect when you yell fire, for ‘everyone’ to jump out of the windows.

September 26, 2009

Criticism is easy; creativity is hard. Step up and show what you are worth.

September 27, 2009

Why do the most ill-bred senior citizens always have to remind young people to respect their elders? The same reason the haughtiest of us remind others to be humble.

September 28, 2009

We can do as much as we like. But not for as long as we like.

October 3, 2009

What good is it to claim to move mountains, yet angrily fumble over a pebble? HMMMM!!!

October 9, 2009

The hardest things to recognize are those right in front of your face.

October 10, 2009

Patience is a virtue but idling is idling.

October 11, 2009

It is better to be on the bottom of the top, than the top of the bottom.

October 12, 2009

If you think putdowns are funny, be a real comedian and take your show on the road.

October 15, 2009

Be careful what you do in life and who you do it to. Two mountains never meet, but two people always meet.

October 16, 2009

The good in man is only as good as he or she believes you are.

October 19, 2009

A truly dishonest man is a friend of everyone.

October 28, 2009

If you think you are poor at anything, you are.

October 31, 2009

We create our own monsters. Try loving them enough to keep them home.

November 5, 2009

Presumed power is presumed. Real power needs no audience and leaves no doubt.

November 7, 2009

When one door closes, peek in before walking through the open one.

November 8, 2009

Drop the cellphone. Don’t walk towards heaven with the devil on speed dial.

November 9, 2009

Learn to channel your energy. Leave other’s alone.

November 10, 2009

When mixing your daily cake of information, always, ALWAYS, keep a sifter handy.

November 11, 2009

Don’t kill the cow because you can’t give milk.

November 12, 2009

A jackass and a wino meet at a crossroad. The jackass says, “Why the long face?” The wino replies, “You haven’t looked in the mirror lately?”

November 13, 2009

Where there is love, there is no violence, no pain, no ignorance, and no envy. Mental, physical, or otherwise.

November 16, 2009

You already know what you cannot do. Now seek out what you can do.

November 17, 2009

Changing your mind, changes your life.

November 18, 2009

No is never the end, but the beginning of a long and fruitful journey.

November 21, 2009

When you have truly learned to stand, you can then show others.

November 23, 2009

“The righteous creates the unrighteous.”

November 25, 2009

The funny thing about truth is that it may seem powerless in the face of manipulation, but it runs longer, deeper, and wider than the most well-constructed lie.

November 26, 2009

History is still a mystery. Create your own or someone will do it for you.

November 28, 2009

Create a hero where ever you go. Become a jerk!

November 30, 2009

I have three brothers that turn your cannot into my can. Determination, Power, and Will.

December 2, 2009

Your leader is not someone who hands you a size 5 shoe for a size 8 foot. Don’t cramp your style no matter how good it looks on the outside.

December 3, 2009

Brothers and sisters are like a rainbow. In their unity, they paint a picture. In their singleness, they bring adventure.

December 4, 2009

When you fall down, don’t get up to walk. Fly.

December 5, 2009

Send out a portion of light from your soul. You will be surprised what comes back.

December 7, 2009

We can teach a dog many tricks but he will still crap inside on occasion. He is still a dog.

December 9, 2009

Plant seeds in winter and in spring. Some things grow in the toughest soil.

December 10, 2009

Nurturing a common hatred and enemy leaves no room for love, productivity and self-esteem.

December 12, 2009

Congratulations to those who have earned their degrees this semester. Love long and prosper.

December 14, 2009

One hand washing the other often dirties the water for the face.

December 15, 2009

Blowing the whistle may break the china, but it will also free your heart.

December 16, 2009

Children are like fine china. Handle with care.

December 18, 2009

Among all virtues patience is the most worthy. Be patient with yourself. You are the only one that is forced to be patient with you continuously.

December 21, 2009

Some wars do not have to be won. The victory is in the willingness to fight for something valuable.

December 22, 2009

The enemy of your enemy can never be your friend. True friendships are never forged in deception.

December 23, 2009

When you cast the spirit of gladness against the wind, nature returns it tenfold.

December 28, 2009

Every bit of movement is creativity. Therefore falling down and getting up are two extremities of creation.

December 29, 2009

On stage applause from a duped audience never makes up for back stage penalties.

December 30, 2009

A warm breath, with a dead soul, dreams of nothing, cares for nothing, kills and feels nothing.

December 31, 2009

The old ones feared to praise themselves thus spent eternity walking under the feet of lizards.

January 6, 2010

When strolling down in the valley, remember there is a sunny side of the street.

January 7, 2010

A person’s place is not your observation, but their destination.

January 8, 2010

A broken man leaves crumbs in your keyhole.

January 10, 2010

The fire of a fight lies not in the vigor but in the vision.

January 11, 2010

The object of envy is now master of all the other emotions.

January 12, 2010

A scuba diver replies to a whale’s inquiry into the Bible, “Aren’t you a little out of your depth?”

January 13, 2010

Laughter and Tears are the only truths. The rest is too obscene to be a lie.

January 14, 2010

If it is for me, give me my flowers while I can still tell if they are to my liking.

January 15, 2010

Calling on one once is a test. Calling on one twice is verification. Calling on one trice closes the gap between the ordinary and the sublime.

January 16, 2010

A cool head in times of upheaval serves the man. A cold head in the time of upheaval kills the man.

January 18, 2010

If you have to say it slow, then I might not want to hear it. Get to the point.

January 19, 2010

Many may touch your heart. More are after your pocket.

January 20, 2010

Test your bridges before you cross. Bridges that are frail and worn burn easily. Good riddens!

January 21, 2010

Sarcasm is the idiot’s substitution for wisdom.

January 24, 2010

The most heinous of crimes is to pick someone’s pocket and pray to God for a clean getaway.

January 25, 2010

If you are worrying about how WE look, clean up YOUR mess!

January 26, 2010

Taking comfort and responsibility in small things leads to a steady progression to a larger and more glorious future.

January 27, 2010

Bias is not a color. It is a preference. We all have preferences, but only mine are valid.

January 29, 2010

Ladies, never let your puss walk faster than you.

January 31, 2010

Finding humor in the most serious of problems is the beginning of finding multiple solutions.

February 1, 2010

Crazy is my yes and your no. We are all crazy for each other aren’t we?

February 3, 2010

Ones ultimate self can become a magnificent original. A copy of someone else is just that, a copy; that will never become as great as the original.

February 4, 2010

Happiness is: being stalked at the gym by a gaped toothed, scraggly bearded person with man-breast, only to find out it is your long lost high school female bud; who couldn’t believe it was you beneath that extra 40 lbs, but recognized your forehead.

February 6, 2010

Acts of charity are always respectful and victim friendly. Acts of bravo only satisfy the doer.

February 7, 2010

An undisciplined conqueror will one day be revealed as a fool, while a disciplined fool has already conquered.

February 8, 2010

There was a day when a person’s history was very important. That history became track record, then M.O. Now we call it baggage and sleep with them anyway.

Rita O. ©2009