Rita O.

Afterdeath: The Seventh Bell – Poverty v. Poorverty

Afterdeath is a learning experience in that it exposes our lives, past and present. Recovering from economic hardship releases a tell, that if we pay close attention, clues us in to what makes us do what we do best. Most people become so elated with overcoming a circumstance that how they got to that tragic place becomes arbitrary. One of the best explanations for economic and social hardship is Poorverty. Hearing the words poverty and poorverty may bring to mind similar circumstances. Poverty denotes lack and so does poorverty. Poverty, however, leans more toward the pocket, while poorvety envelopes the mind. One may remove their self from poverty mentally, physically, and economically but poorvety is forever. Poorvety may be learned from one growing up in an environment of poverty, neglect, savagery, or hatred. Either or all of these circumstances combined nurture anger in the human spirit. The difference between one dealing with lifelong poverty and lifelong poverty is that poorverty cancels out love in any form it comes to the individual or community.

Poorverty in men and women can explain their lack of commitment and excellence in relationships, employment, and organizations. Then again it can excel an individual to become aggressive in their quest for leadership and prominence. Poorverty plays an important part in industry where marketing can locate, denigrate, and then create a mindset of display for whatever product the manufacturer chooses to push. Disreputable ones in leadership may control a group by seeking out those in poorverty to place in positions of limited power, thereby creating an atmosphere where any inconsistency dispensing goods and services is less likely to become announced for fear of retribution. This is most apparent in low-income and minority communities where poverty and poorverty thrives best.

Have you seen the newest line of bags that will push you to the top of the community fashion trend? One would wonder how those in poverty have time to worry with fashion but like the Franklin D. Roosevelt’s use of the arts during the Great Depression, fashion is a great diversion for those in poorverty. No one in poorverty feels slighted or even poor in a pair of designer shoes. Depending on the system of poorvety, knock-offs do just as well. But if those in both poorvety and poverty spent an extra the extra change for a copy of Vogue, they would soon realize that their fashionista sense is a few years behind the elite styles. By the time fashions reach the poverty-line, top designers have long forgotten they existed. A Coach bag travels well in the poorest of neighborhoods. The question begs, which and how many Coach bags are really making it to the runway these days? In an environment of poorverty the Coach trumps a good, well-made bag any day; even if the electric company has to wait for their share of the household income. In the non-profit world of dispensing goods and services, the volunteer is king or queen as the gender may have it.

The 21st century of deprivation leaves less legitimate goods and services to go around and more charlatans in need of a good venue. There is also a greater population of needy than before in the most prominent of countries. The need may be financial or spiritual and in this depth of need there is a fortress constructed of politically minded individuals to offer assistance. One of these master manipulators proclaimed to his followers and staff, as he came under fire from an inquisitive individual, “If they do this to me then how do you think they will treat you.” He neither answered the inquirers questions, nor offered any sense to his actions other than to strike fear in those whose authority and prestige would suffer if he fell. By the time the leader left his position, the organization was bankrupt to the point where the office telephone and electricity was cut-off. He had the past of poorverty to shield his audacity.

In the Afterdeath, poorverty places value on the outer portrayal of the person. There is nothing genuine in the productivity. Everyone in range is under fire; a target for what they can afford to give or convey. The rush to regain the sense of self that was dependent on physical manifestations of social value becomes prominent and the sacrifice is anyone in the path of the train to success. This is the most important time to re-access priorities and count the cost of the soul in exchange for the moment. When things look their most prominent is the time to back away and take a look at the overall picture in the mirror. Whose advice are you following? How are they perceived? What is their record of sustainability? And most of all, how many car crashes are you willing to walk away from in the future?

Afterdeath: The Sixth Bell – Simplistic Power

Power for the powerless is examined in quite a few texts. Self-help literature sells more than most literary markets, with exception of the Bible. Even the Bible can be classified among the Self-Help genre if utilized effectively. So no one is truly powerless. They are power ignorant, at best. A patriarch or matriarch is powerful in his or her ability to marshal family resources, and manipulate its members. So it is with managers and CEOs of businesses. Politicians are effective through their ability to accumulate and utilize the power of a community, nation, or any universe. It is the individual power of a number of people that denotes the sway and ability of one to have a voice.  Gangs control an entire neighborhood as long as the power of each member remains dedicated to that purpose. Why do you feel powerless in the Afterdeath phases of your life?  What you perceived as leverage in a world of hidden power has been removed. It could be health, money, physical and mental independence, geography, or any other parameter of symbolic organized power. That only means it is time for you to reorganize the power within yourself.

For some, the Afterdeath is a curse. All has been lost and the individual looks, feels, and thinks like someone pulled from a major auto accident; still alive but barely. They see it as failure or disgrace. For others, the Afterdeath phase becomes a reawakening of simplistic power. Simplistic power, for this piece, is the power inherent in all and pursued by everyone. Take a metropolitan clothing store for instance. The store had been busy for at least two hours at the end of the day shift. The evening shift is arriving. Sales clerk 1 is 15 minutes late.  Sales clerk 2 is 30 minutes late. Still another, Sales clerk 3, is 1 hour late, with a plausible excuse. Customers sift through table items until each display table is unmanageable. The manager attempts to field customers’ questions, but is overrun. He becomes combative with those he considers least likely to purchase major items. Customers become agitated and begin to leave without a purchase.

Every customer in the store was equal in power, yet unequal in their ability to use it. Luckily in most metropolitan areas there are a variety of venues to purchase goods and services. Each customer had the power to search out that coat, hat, etc… at another location. It may take some longer to realize it than others. There are those who are easily diverted from their original motivations and get caught up in the extraneous, like demanding attention or acknowledgement of their importance in any situation. In the Afterdeath phase, this is dangerous. Stick to the point. Don’t get diverted from your purpose. Let others have their 2 seconds of fame while you continue on your journey. Why did I cut the 15 minutes to 2 seconds? You don’t have the time.

At the weekly employee meeting, the manager tightens the policy on lateness and absence. His tone is threatening, vulgar, and demeaning. Where was the simplistic power in this scenario? The manager imagined the power to vent his unbridled frustrations. Was it the manager’s ability to fire the tardy employees? You would think so. But in actuality the power actually laid with the first person who frowned their lips, sucked their teeth, and headed for the door without a purchase. There was also the power of the individual (simplistic) and collective power of the employees to consider. With all of the manager’s power to relieve others of a livelihood, his careless use of this power damaged him.

Let us examine the employees at the weekly meeting.  Each employee received the same message from the manager. They each had collective and individual reactions. The measure of simplistic power in each individual is the same. They can take the trashing and learn to prepare better for appointments, which will definitely be an asset to any individual. But in the perfect world, there are still unseen complications. Sales clerk 1 took an important phone call just as she was ready to leave for work. She may reassess her actions by weighing the chastisement against the importance of the call. Sales clerk 2 slipped and fell on ice two blocks from his home. He returned home to address a bloody nose.  Assessing that the nose was not broken, he went in to work. He may feel quite undone by the manager’s attitude. Sales clerk 3 advised the manager two weeks earlier of a doctor’s appointment, which, with travel time, would stretch and hour into her shift. She was scheduled for surgery in two weeks and would also have to take time for recuperation. Will this affect her job in the future? Two of the three, Sales clerk 2 and 3 were bound by their obligations to their health in this scenario. Their simplistic power used properly will either, after close assessment of the salary and future prospects, bring them to choose other employment or battle through an abusive experience. Regardless of the circumstances, they have the power to cause a business to lose viable assets. The business must then use unnecessary resources to train new people. Small retail businesses find it difficult to hire legal, loyal employees, who will work hard at minimal pay.

The Afterdeath experience becomes cultivated ground for training your simplistic power. The aim is to cut down on loss of time and resources while recovering self.  After all you have already lost, utilizing your personal power effectively improves your mental, physical, social, and economic health exponentially.

Afterdeath: The Fifth Bell – Time Like These

Economic faults, climates gone crazy, obesity, smoking anything rolled in paper, tobacco, tobacco rolled in paper. We are falling apart. Piece by piece. In the midst of this bad news, we have holiday cheer, and folks resurrecting the argument of whether we should celebrate December 25th  with reverence denoting the birth of Christ; or is Santa Claus more appropriate in a free society? So much drama for new a century bent on becoming more educated, stronger, wiser, and healthier than the last.

There were two women arguing, at the cash register of a major department store, as to whether computers are making or breaking down human communication. In the midst of their conversation, one woman’s cellphone rang. She excused herself to answer the call. The other woman rolled her eyes and turned her back to the other. “See that’s what I’m talking about,” she exclaimed when she heard the other woman conclude her call. “We can’t finish a conversation without technology interrupting.”

“That was my father. My mother just passed away.”

“Well couldn’t it have waited until you got home?”

While we fall apart together, can we afford to still banter on about personal annoyances? The example above may be extreme to some, but when it comes to saving the world, it is doubtful. The claim of community in America falls short of its mark in the face of major inconsistencies. Free enterprise leaves little room for community when individuals seek out each other as fair game in the rush for property, purse, and enterprise. We want to slow our carbon foot print, yet on a personal level few want to make the sacrifices necessary to make this possible. To our detriment, we will buy Styrofoam cups because they are on sale, yet sign petitions for climate legislation. We refuse to read product labels for harmful chemical contents, yet complain when we stand on long lines at the emergency room. Our selfishness is our inconvenience.

During a time of Afterdeath, we have the moments available to rethink our past program. What has brought us to the point in life where we no longer live to enjoy our past labors? Where did we go wrong in our responsibility to our family, neighborhood, nation, and the world we live in? How will we as an individual, on a new journey, calculate our future worth, promise, and debt? If these questions are not asked, we leave ourselves open to the parasites ready to put us back into the game.   When I complained to a minister, a few months ago, about the failure of society to live up to its promise, she answered me thus, “Don’t hate the player.  Hate the game.” It surprised me. First because she was a minister, second because she was a mother of two young boys. Her answer is not personal but prophetic of what our society has taken to be normal. The dog eat dog.

The technological world is a prime example of the Afterdeath experience. Whatever we relish internally, we will find it on the internet. There are people who surf the web daily and pass over pornography advertisements when or if they appear. Still many demonize the internet and technology as a whole. It may be that they are fearful of newness in any form on a personal level. If the unknown is fearful to those in the Afterdeath, it must be the first thing to go. The fear is what will keep the individual stalled in the turnstile of social services; buried in a life of those seeking to devour someone – anyone.


Words for the wanna-bee wise.

Mommafucious says …

August 20, 2009

Darkness and light cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

August 21, 2009

If it looks too good for you, smells too good for you, sounds too good for you, don’t hate. Move out of the way and let it move up.

August 22, 2009

If you are not in the healing business, comforting  business, finance business, stay out of other people’s business

August 24, 2009

A MAN abhors a gossiping shrew, especially in a wife.  If he is too quick to join in, take a hard look under the covers.

August 25, 2009

If your mound of gold looks smaller than someone else’s, yours is just farther away. Run faster. Work harder. Stay in Your lane.

August 26, 2009

Pity is no good to anyone. Save it for yourself. Give a helping hand instead.

August 27, 2009

A wise man once said, “I don’t know. Ask Mommafucious!”

August 28, 2009

If someone tells you something to keep between you and them, it is not between you and them.

August 29, 2009

Seeking midnight danger brings morning complaints.

August 31, 2009

When I was a child, I thought like a child. Then I realized I am not as smart as I pretended to be.

September 1, 2009

Always wait for the things you want most instead of taking what you need the least.

September 2, 2009

Respect is a shared experience. If you do not care to share, you might receive less than you expect.

September 3, 2009

If it is not written on your heart, writing it on your tongue will only help or harm someone else.

September 4, 2009

Casting pearls before swine only gets them dirty.

September 5, 2009

Pretense is fragile and easily threatened. It demands respect constantly. Authenticity is solid as a rock and can afford to be kind. It is never shamed.

September 8, 2009

Grow up and strong, not old. Age has its own batteries.

September 13, 2009

Humbling others shows our own inhumility, jealousy, and fear.

September 15, 2009

Anger brings wisdom. Share the wisdom, not the anger.

September 21, 2009

It is not what anyone says that makes you. It is what you do.

September 22, 2009

Life is like poker. You can only bluff so many times before you meet a real winner.

September 23, 2009

Calm in the face of danger is victory.

September 24, 2009

An incident, no matter how perverse, is only a moment in time. Don’t let it determine the rest of your life.

September 25, 2009

One person’s burden is another’s load. Don’t expect when you yell fire, for ‘everyone’ to jump out of the windows.

September 26, 2009

Criticism is easy; creativity is hard. Step up and show what you are worth.

September 27, 2009

Why do the most ill-bred senior citizens always have to remind young people to respect their elders? The same reason the haughtiest of us remind others to be humble.

September 28, 2009

We can do as much as we like. But not for as long as we like.

October 3, 2009

What good is it to claim to move mountains, yet angrily fumble over a pebble? HMMMM!!!

October 9, 2009

The hardest things to recognize are those right in front of your face.

October 10, 2009

Patience is a virtue but idling is idling.

October 11, 2009

It is better to be on the bottom of the top, than the top of the bottom.

October 12, 2009

If you think putdowns are funny, be a real comedian and take your show on the road.

October 15, 2009

Be careful what you do in life and who you do it to. Two mountains never meet, but two people always meet.

October 16, 2009

The good in man is only as good as he or she believes you are.

October 19, 2009

A truly dishonest man is a friend of everyone.

October 28, 2009

If you think you are poor at anything, you are.

October 31, 2009

We create our own monsters. Try loving them enough to keep them home.

November 5, 2009

Presumed power is presumed. Real power needs no audience and leaves no doubt.

November 7, 2009

When one door closes, peek in before walking through the open one.

November 8, 2009

Drop the cellphone. Don’t walk towards heaven with the devil on speed dial.

November 9, 2009

Learn to channel your energy. Leave other’s alone.

November 10, 2009

When mixing your daily cake of information, always, ALWAYS, keep a sifter handy.

November 11, 2009

Don’t kill the cow because you can’t give milk.

November 12, 2009

A jackass and a wino meet at a crossroad. The jackass says, “Why the long face?” The wino replies, “You haven’t looked in the mirror lately?”

November 13, 2009

Where there is love, there is no violence, no pain, no ignorance, and no envy. Mental, physical, or otherwise.

November 16, 2009

You already know what you cannot do. Now seek out what you can do.

November 17, 2009

Changing your mind, changes your life.

November 18, 2009

No is never the end, but the beginning of a long and fruitful journey.

November 21, 2009

When you have truly learned to stand, you can then show others.

November 23, 2009

“The righteous creates the unrighteous.”

November 25, 2009

The funny thing about truth is that it may seem powerless in the face of manipulation, but it runs longer, deeper, and wider than the most well-constructed lie.

November 26, 2009

History is still a mystery. Create your own or someone will do it for you.

November 28, 2009

Create a hero where ever you go. Become a jerk!

November 30, 2009

I have three brothers that turn your cannot into my can. Determination, Power, and Will.

December 2, 2009

Your leader is not someone who hands you a size 5 shoe for a size 8 foot. Don’t cramp your style no matter how good it looks on the outside.

December 3, 2009

Brothers and sisters are like a rainbow. In their unity, they paint a picture. In their singleness, they bring adventure.

December 4, 2009

When you fall down, don’t get up to walk. Fly.

December 5, 2009

Send out a portion of light from your soul. You will be surprised what comes back.

December 7, 2009

We can teach a dog many tricks but he will still crap inside on occasion. He is still a dog.

December 9, 2009

Plant seeds in winter and in spring. Some things grow in the toughest soil.

December 10, 2009

Nurturing a common hatred and enemy leaves no room for love, productivity and self-esteem.

December 12, 2009

Congratulations to those who have earned their degrees this semester. Love long and prosper.

December 14, 2009

One hand washing the other often dirties the water for the face.

December 15, 2009

Blowing the whistle may break the china, but it will also free your heart.

December 16, 2009

Children are like fine china. Handle with care.

December 18, 2009

Among all virtues patience is the most worthy. Be patient with yourself. You are the only one that is forced to be patient with you continuously.

December 21, 2009

Some wars do not have to be won. The victory is in the willingness to fight for something valuable.

December 22, 2009

The enemy of your enemy can never be your friend. True friendships are never forged in deception.

December 23, 2009

When you cast the spirit of gladness against the wind, nature returns it tenfold.

December 28, 2009

Every bit of movement is creativity. Therefore falling down and getting up are two extremities of creation.

December 29, 2009

On stage applause from a duped audience never makes up for back stage penalties.

December 30, 2009

A warm breath, with a dead soul, dreams of nothing, cares for nothing, kills and feels nothing.

December 31, 2009

The old ones feared to praise themselves thus spent eternity walking under the feet of lizards.

January 6, 2010

When strolling down in the valley, remember there is a sunny side of the street.

January 7, 2010

A person’s place is not your observation, but their destination.

January 8, 2010

A broken man leaves crumbs in your keyhole.

January 10, 2010

The fire of a fight lies not in the vigor but in the vision.

January 11, 2010

The object of envy is now master of all the other emotions.

January 12, 2010

A scuba diver replies to a whale’s inquiry into the Bible, “Aren’t you a little out of your depth?”

January 13, 2010

Laughter and Tears are the only truths. The rest is too obscene to be a lie.

January 14, 2010

If it is for me, give me my flowers while I can still tell if they are to my liking.

January 15, 2010

Calling on one once is a test. Calling on one twice is verification. Calling on one trice closes the gap between the ordinary and the sublime.

January 16, 2010

A cool head in times of upheaval serves the man. A cold head in the time of upheaval kills the man.

January 18, 2010

If you have to say it slow, then I might not want to hear it. Get to the point.

January 19, 2010

Many may touch your heart. More are after your pocket.

January 20, 2010

Test your bridges before you cross. Bridges that are frail and worn burn easily. Good riddens!

January 21, 2010

Sarcasm is the idiot’s substitution for wisdom.

January 24, 2010

The most heinous of crimes is to pick someone’s pocket and pray to God for a clean getaway.

January 25, 2010

If you are worrying about how WE look, clean up YOUR mess!

January 26, 2010

Taking comfort and responsibility in small things leads to a steady progression to a larger and more glorious future.

January 27, 2010

Bias is not a color. It is a preference. We all have preferences, but only mine are valid.

January 29, 2010

Ladies, never let your puss walk faster than you.

January 31, 2010

Finding humor in the most serious of problems is the beginning of finding multiple solutions.

February 1, 2010

Crazy is my yes and your no. We are all crazy for each other aren’t we?

February 3, 2010

Ones ultimate self can become a magnificent original. A copy of someone else is just that, a copy; that will never become as great as the original.

February 4, 2010

Happiness is: being stalked at the gym by a gaped toothed, scraggly bearded person with man-breast, only to find out it is your long lost high school female bud; who couldn’t believe it was you beneath that extra 40 lbs, but recognized your forehead.

February 6, 2010

Acts of charity are always respectful and victim friendly. Acts of bravo only satisfy the doer.

February 7, 2010

An undisciplined conqueror will one day be revealed as a fool, while a disciplined fool has already conquered.

February 8, 2010

There was a day when a person’s history was very important. That history became track record, then M.O. Now we call it baggage and sleep with them anyway.

Rita O. ©2009