Afterdeath: The Third Bell

To begin this conversation on the right note, let us recall the table of delights from our first chapter. Remember the waiter. He was ready and eager to grant your every wish when you first sat down to the meal.  Gradually, he became more distant. Slow to bring that extra napkin or carelessly dropping fresh silverware here and there. It’s his job to know when the hook is securely in place. And when to jam it deeper. The one thing to the carrier’s advantage is the advancement into self. This can also be the dangerous curve in the road where they will lose quite a few passengers.

We are conditioned to be polite, giving, cooperative, patient, accepting, etc… The waiters of this world depend on these qualities to shame the carrier into compliance. The waiter nurtures the fear of hunger, rejection, isolation, and abandonment. He can be the lonesome parent leaning heavily on her adult child, the ill-prepared educator trying to save face; or the faith-leader, counselor, or employer unable to keep pace with his competitors. The parent will never become satisfied no matter how much the adult child cares for him or her. The rest must convince the carrier, like the salesperson, that without them, the carrier will be destitute. They are the keepers of all that is binding to the self.

Suppose, for instance, the student ceases to become the carrier and actually asks the right questions, challenging the educator. Society is set up where, for the student, there is no reward, only condemnation. The student learns to absorb the nagging stomach, just to get the ‘A’ or ‘B.’ Now as an adult carrier, the store clerk sells them items they’ll never use, but are too embarrassed to turn down.  Likewise, an employer slights them on wages and promotions, because they will never complain. Family and friends will cheer them on for lasting 30 years with the same firm – as they watch others with less education and ability, reap the benefits of maneuvering the corporate arenas.

While taking a computer certification course in the late 1970’s, one instructor counseled the students to never stop looking for the ideal position. Global technology called for lateral movements between companies and corporations in order to rise. Technology did not only change the speed at which we did business, but the essence of the employer/employee relationship.  A systems engineer at one company could get twice his pay and loads of benefits at another company. Also, employees were now vested after 5 years, instead of 15 or 20 years, as decades before.

The average middle-aged or senior citizen was at a disadvantage re-entering the job market unless they had computer skills. Their labor was now disposable, since most of them were declining in health and ambition. The world began to run helter skelter to work, instead of the cog and wheel past. So if they appear to represent more of the carrier and keeper set, fear is all they have lived after the Great American Depression, two world wars, nuclear threats, drug wars, and loosing that lovely head of hair.  Radical as those times seemed, the present is even more radical with choices of lifestyles, employment, and social communities.


Words for the wanna-bee wise.

Mommafucious says …

August 20, 2009

Darkness and light cannot occupy the same space at the same time.

August 21, 2009

If it looks too good for you, smells too good for you, sounds too good for you, don’t hate. Move out of the way and let it move up.

August 22, 2009

If you are not in the healing business, comforting  business, finance business, stay out of other people’s business

August 24, 2009

A MAN abhors a gossiping shrew, especially in a wife.  If he is too quick to join in, take a hard look under the covers.

August 25, 2009

If your mound of gold looks smaller than someone else’s, yours is just farther away. Run faster. Work harder. Stay in Your lane.

August 26, 2009

Pity is no good to anyone. Save it for yourself. Give a helping hand instead.

August 27, 2009

A wise man once said, “I don’t know. Ask Mommafucious!”

August 28, 2009

If someone tells you something to keep between you and them, it is not between you and them.

August 29, 2009

Seeking midnight danger brings morning complaints.

August 31, 2009

When I was a child, I thought like a child. Then I realized I am not as smart as I pretended to be.

September 1, 2009

Always wait for the things you want most instead of taking what you need the least.

September 2, 2009

Respect is a shared experience. If you do not care to share, you might receive less than you expect.

September 3, 2009

If it is not written on your heart, writing it on your tongue will only help or harm someone else.

September 4, 2009

Casting pearls before swine only gets them dirty.

September 5, 2009

Pretense is fragile and easily threatened. It demands respect constantly. Authenticity is solid as a rock and can afford to be kind. It is never shamed.

September 8, 2009

Grow up and strong, not old. Age has its own batteries.

September 13, 2009

Humbling others shows our own inhumility, jealousy, and fear.

September 15, 2009

Anger brings wisdom. Share the wisdom, not the anger.

September 21, 2009

It is not what anyone says that makes you. It is what you do.

September 22, 2009

Life is like poker. You can only bluff so many times before you meet a real winner.

September 23, 2009

Calm in the face of danger is victory.

September 24, 2009

An incident, no matter how perverse, is only a moment in time. Don’t let it determine the rest of your life.

September 25, 2009

One person’s burden is another’s load. Don’t expect when you yell fire, for ‘everyone’ to jump out of the windows.

September 26, 2009

Criticism is easy; creativity is hard. Step up and show what you are worth.

September 27, 2009

Why do the most ill-bred senior citizens always have to remind young people to respect their elders? The same reason the haughtiest of us remind others to be humble.

September 28, 2009

We can do as much as we like. But not for as long as we like.

October 3, 2009

What good is it to claim to move mountains, yet angrily fumble over a pebble? HMMMM!!!

October 9, 2009

The hardest things to recognize are those right in front of your face.

October 10, 2009

Patience is a virtue but idling is idling.

October 11, 2009

It is better to be on the bottom of the top, than the top of the bottom.

October 12, 2009

If you think putdowns are funny, be a real comedian and take your show on the road.

October 15, 2009

Be careful what you do in life and who you do it to. Two mountains never meet, but two people always meet.

October 16, 2009

The good in man is only as good as he or she believes you are.

October 19, 2009

A truly dishonest man is a friend of everyone.

October 28, 2009

If you think you are poor at anything, you are.

October 31, 2009

We create our own monsters. Try loving them enough to keep them home.

November 5, 2009

Presumed power is presumed. Real power needs no audience and leaves no doubt.

November 7, 2009

When one door closes, peek in before walking through the open one.

November 8, 2009

Drop the cellphone. Don’t walk towards heaven with the devil on speed dial.

November 9, 2009

Learn to channel your energy. Leave other’s alone.

November 10, 2009

When mixing your daily cake of information, always, ALWAYS, keep a sifter handy.

November 11, 2009

Don’t kill the cow because you can’t give milk.

November 12, 2009

A jackass and a wino meet at a crossroad. The jackass says, “Why the long face?” The wino replies, “You haven’t looked in the mirror lately?”

November 13, 2009

Where there is love, there is no violence, no pain, no ignorance, and no envy. Mental, physical, or otherwise.

November 16, 2009

You already know what you cannot do. Now seek out what you can do.

November 17, 2009

Changing your mind, changes your life.

November 18, 2009

No is never the end, but the beginning of a long and fruitful journey.

November 21, 2009

When you have truly learned to stand, you can then show others.

November 23, 2009

“The righteous creates the unrighteous.”

November 25, 2009

The funny thing about truth is that it may seem powerless in the face of manipulation, but it runs longer, deeper, and wider than the most well-constructed lie.

November 26, 2009

History is still a mystery. Create your own or someone will do it for you.

November 28, 2009

Create a hero where ever you go. Become a jerk!

November 30, 2009

I have three brothers that turn your cannot into my can. Determination, Power, and Will.

December 2, 2009

Your leader is not someone who hands you a size 5 shoe for a size 8 foot. Don’t cramp your style no matter how good it looks on the outside.

December 3, 2009

Brothers and sisters are like a rainbow. In their unity, they paint a picture. In their singleness, they bring adventure.

December 4, 2009

When you fall down, don’t get up to walk. Fly.

December 5, 2009

Send out a portion of light from your soul. You will be surprised what comes back.

December 7, 2009

We can teach a dog many tricks but he will still crap inside on occasion. He is still a dog.

December 9, 2009

Plant seeds in winter and in spring. Some things grow in the toughest soil.

December 10, 2009

Nurturing a common hatred and enemy leaves no room for love, productivity and self-esteem.

December 12, 2009

Congratulations to those who have earned their degrees this semester. Love long and prosper.

December 14, 2009

One hand washing the other often dirties the water for the face.

December 15, 2009

Blowing the whistle may break the china, but it will also free your heart.

December 16, 2009

Children are like fine china. Handle with care.

December 18, 2009

Among all virtues patience is the most worthy. Be patient with yourself. You are the only one that is forced to be patient with you continuously.

December 21, 2009

Some wars do not have to be won. The victory is in the willingness to fight for something valuable.

December 22, 2009

The enemy of your enemy can never be your friend. True friendships are never forged in deception.

December 23, 2009

When you cast the spirit of gladness against the wind, nature returns it tenfold.

December 28, 2009

Every bit of movement is creativity. Therefore falling down and getting up are two extremities of creation.

December 29, 2009

On stage applause from a duped audience never makes up for back stage penalties.

December 30, 2009

A warm breath, with a dead soul, dreams of nothing, cares for nothing, kills and feels nothing.

December 31, 2009

The old ones feared to praise themselves thus spent eternity walking under the feet of lizards.

January 6, 2010

When strolling down in the valley, remember there is a sunny side of the street.

January 7, 2010

A person’s place is not your observation, but their destination.

January 8, 2010

A broken man leaves crumbs in your keyhole.

January 10, 2010

The fire of a fight lies not in the vigor but in the vision.

January 11, 2010

The object of envy is now master of all the other emotions.

January 12, 2010

A scuba diver replies to a whale’s inquiry into the Bible, “Aren’t you a little out of your depth?”

January 13, 2010

Laughter and Tears are the only truths. The rest is too obscene to be a lie.

January 14, 2010

If it is for me, give me my flowers while I can still tell if they are to my liking.

January 15, 2010

Calling on one once is a test. Calling on one twice is verification. Calling on one trice closes the gap between the ordinary and the sublime.

January 16, 2010

A cool head in times of upheaval serves the man. A cold head in the time of upheaval kills the man.

January 18, 2010

If you have to say it slow, then I might not want to hear it. Get to the point.

January 19, 2010

Many may touch your heart. More are after your pocket.

January 20, 2010

Test your bridges before you cross. Bridges that are frail and worn burn easily. Good riddens!

January 21, 2010

Sarcasm is the idiot’s substitution for wisdom.

January 24, 2010

The most heinous of crimes is to pick someone’s pocket and pray to God for a clean getaway.

January 25, 2010

If you are worrying about how WE look, clean up YOUR mess!

January 26, 2010

Taking comfort and responsibility in small things leads to a steady progression to a larger and more glorious future.

January 27, 2010

Bias is not a color. It is a preference. We all have preferences, but only mine are valid.

January 29, 2010

Ladies, never let your puss walk faster than you.

January 31, 2010

Finding humor in the most serious of problems is the beginning of finding multiple solutions.

February 1, 2010

Crazy is my yes and your no. We are all crazy for each other aren’t we?

February 3, 2010

Ones ultimate self can become a magnificent original. A copy of someone else is just that, a copy; that will never become as great as the original.

February 4, 2010

Happiness is: being stalked at the gym by a gaped toothed, scraggly bearded person with man-breast, only to find out it is your long lost high school female bud; who couldn’t believe it was you beneath that extra 40 lbs, but recognized your forehead.

February 6, 2010

Acts of charity are always respectful and victim friendly. Acts of bravo only satisfy the doer.

February 7, 2010

An undisciplined conqueror will one day be revealed as a fool, while a disciplined fool has already conquered.

February 8, 2010

There was a day when a person’s history was very important. That history became track record, then M.O. Now we call it baggage and sleep with them anyway.

Rita O. ©2009